3 Steps to Attracting the Life you Really Want for You and Your Family

Do not be mistaken - you will not have success in your personal or family life through luck or by accident.
You need to have a clear picture in your mind of what it is that you want to come into your life.

The universe works like a restaurant - once you have made your order all you need to do is wait patiently, knowing that it is on it's way to you. The way you make your order is to put pictures of what it is you want somewhere you will see it regularly.

1/ Say It!
Write down sentences or affirmations to be repeated regularly affirming whatever you wish to manifest. Some affirmations that I find useful are

I am grateful and enjoy every day.
  • All I need comes to me easily and effortlessly.
  • I have peace of mind whatever is going on around me.
  • I live in the abundance of money and love.
  • My marriage is fun and fulfilling.
  • I am generous and love to give.
  • I am energetic, fit and healthy.
  • I am young at heart.
  • I am an inspirational example.
The most powerful way to attract success, wealth, happiness and health into your life is to write the affirmation or visualise yourself as already having whatever it is you desire. The sub-conscious brain can not differentiate between what you wish for and what actually is. When you see yourself as already having the things or characteristics that you require, you begin to attract whatever you need to make it so and the cosmos rushes in to align your reality with your sub-conscious.
This is the metaphysical Law of Attraction.
Basically, if you believe something with all your soul then it comes true.
"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve."

-  Napoleon Hill, 'Think and Grow Rich'  (Read it here) here for about $5, or you can see the first 20 mins of it here. There is an abundance in the world and it is your birthright. The only thing standing between you and abundance is your 'lack' mindset.

2/ See It!

Before I had seen 'The Secret' and learned about the Law of Attraction I made myself a 'Discovery Journal'; one of the tools described in the wonderful book Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach. I bought myself a plain paged scrap book and stuck images in it that I cut out from magazines. These were any images that appealed to me at the time and included pictures of women doing yoga, healthy-looking food, as well as clothes and beautiful sunsets. Looking back over it recently it amazes me how I have really manifested a similar life-style to the one in the images. I have since taken up yoga and have managed to lose all of my excess birth weight with sensible, healthy eating.

Having looked at it again recently, I decided that it's time I made a new one and help myself move forward with new wishes and dreams. This time I shall make a visualisation board so that I can see it every morning when I wake. I think this will help the new images seep more deeply into my sub-conscious. If you want to do the same then you could print some images from the internet of nurturing mothers, successful businesswomen, money, your dream holiday destination, a woman looking serene or happy, an image of a new hobby you're interested in, whatever you desire in your personal or family life. Don't play it safe - dig deep within and listen to that little voice that has been drowned out by babies' crying for so long...

Here is an example of an inspiring visualisation movie from the maker of 'The Secret'. I actually have this as a shortcut on my computer desktop and watch it regularly to uplift and inspire me.

3/ Feel It!

The third step is to align yourself emotionally with whatever you want to manifest in your life.

Esther Hicks explains in her book The Astonishing Power of Emotions that 'you are a vibrational being'. You are more of an electrical being that flesh and blood. When you ask it is always given to you, but understand that this asking is not merely verbal. It is a vibrational asking, a feeling of desire and passion, an unspoken wordless decision made within. Sometimes your words are a perfect vibrational match to that which is within you, but often they are not, which is why you don't get what you are asking for.

Whatever is on its way to you is a perfect vibrational match to what you have been feeling inside. So if you pay attention to what you are feeling you can begin to learn how to deliberately create your life experience. Set your vibrational tone to something that pleases you and the Universe will give to you something that pleases you.

You really can enjoy financial abundance, attract your perfect mate or put the sizzle back in your current relationship, finally lose that extra weight,enjoy optimum health and energy, start your home-run business to have more time with the kids or whatever it is that you desire. If you believe it, you can achieve it! Even this website is an example of an idea I once had that I could see in my mind's eye when I knew very little about computers, and have since 'attracted' to me the resources and knowledge to be able to make this website manifest in the real world (well, cyber space at least!).

If you are one of the few who has not yet seen the internet hit movie 'The Secret' then where have you been??!! I do really think it's worth a look. You can watch the whole movie

According to the theories of Quantum Physics everything on this earth vibrates at certain frequencies, including your thoughts. So when you are sending out "good vibrations" you are also attracting these same higher level vibrations back to you. For example, when we are happy, we attract more happiness to us. Because of these natural laws of Quantum Physics, we are attracting more good things into our lives to be happy about.

- So reach little by little for thoughts that feel good, for when you feel good you let an abundance of well-being and goodness in.
- Make it your intention today to feel good about what you see and to look for whatever makes you feel good.
- Keep your vibration matching your dream.

You may think that pleasing yourself sounds hedonistic and selfish - that's how us girls have been taught to think. But as Esther says:

'If you are not selfish enough to find vibrational harmony with Source,
you have nothing to give anyone else'.

Once you start to get these 3 elements working together an amazing thing will begin to occur - and this is the true 'secret' of attracting what you want into your life - you will begin to believe it! For you can wish and dream 'til the cows come home', hoping that some greater force will magically make it happen for you, but if you don't go about working for it to happen and if you believe in your heart that it's not really going to happen, then it won't.
Say it + See it + Feel it = Believe it!

Quantum Physics states that everything on this earth vibrates at certain frequencies, including your thoughts. So when you are sending out "good vibrations" you are also attracting these same higher level vibrations back to you. For example, when we are happy, we attract more happiness to us. Because of these natural laws of Quantum Physics, we are attracting more good things into our lives to be happy about.

Now to go back to the start of this article - you need to have a clear picture in your mind of what you want for yourself and your family. And now you've learned that it is important that this picture makes you feel good.

So I invite you to have in your mind a picture of how you want your life to be in every aspect. But not just vague ideas, as detailed as possible, and they have to be believable for you:

  • Health - how healthy do you think you want to be? How fit? What level of well-being?
  • Wealth - what will you buy with your wealth? Family experiences, house (where?), car (which?), holidays, give it away, help others, presents, boat, hobby, books, computer...?
  • Relationships - with parents, with spouse, with children, amongst children, family atmosphere, happiness, fun, success, friends, respect...
  • Career - work for self/others, don't work at all, full-time mother, in office/at home/on the beach, inspiring others, serving others, pleasing self, expressing self...How much money do you want to earn?

It is more important that you focus on your dream, the world as you want it to be, than to concentrate on the world as it is. This keeps you expanding with Consciousness and the Universe. Forever growing.

Tell yourself as you picture your dream: 'I know it's on its way to me.'

And it already is...
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